Marriage 01

TOPIC

Advantages and disadvantages of being single

Essay

◆ Advantages
 Although there are a lot of merits of being single, I would like to mention the four primary advantages.
 The first advantage is freedom. Marriage entails a lot of responsibilities, duties, compromises, and so on. However, single people do not have these mental burdens.
 The second advantage is that being single does not cost much money than being married. Wedding and supporting family and putting children through school and getting divorce and paying alimony cost a lot of money. However, being single does not cost for all these things.
 The third advantage is being able to focus on career. Single people can put more attention to their careers than married people because single ones can spend time and money for themselves, therefore they can invest on self-development and career.
 The fourth advantage is mental health. There are a lot of people who get much unhappier after getting married. There are a lot of ugly cases such as domestic violence, messy divorce, child abuse, children’s delinquency, and so forth. Considering these things, being single could be a much happier way to live than being married.
 As I mentioned, these are the four primary advantages of being single.
(200 Words)

◆ Disadvantages
 Although there are a lot of demerits of being single, I would like to mention the two primary disadvantages.
 The first disadvantage is that being single at a certain age can be frowned upon by people. Generally, people believe that marriage is a good thing, and some people believe that marriage is the only way to be happy and being single is unhappy, and other people even believe that single people at a certain age are something wrong. There can be a lot of times when it is hard to go against these stereotypes.
 The second disadvantage is that single people may not experience pleasures which only family can give. Many people say that one of the happiest times of their life is when they got married and their children were born. Unconditional love is one of the biggest sources of happiness, and except between family members, it is not easy to experience it. Family is one of the strongest motivations for anything. Many people say that with family support they can do anything and having a wife or husband and children is the greatest thing in life.
 As I mentioned, these are the two primary disadvantages of being single.
(202 Words)

Date:February 12, 2012

メモ

◆ トピック:独身の長所と短所

これも良く話題になるトピックです。

長所は、
「自由」
「お金がかからない」
「キャリアに集中できる」
「精神的健康」
の4つを、キーアイディアに書いてみました。

反論としては、
「結婚していても、自由に生きることは出来るのではないか?」
「お金をかけずに結婚する事も、独身時代よりも豊かに暮らす事も、出来るのではないか?」
「結婚していても、キャリアに集中することは出来るのではないか?」
「結婚や家庭のおかげで、独身よりも精神的健康度が増す事もあるのではないか?」
などが考えられます。

短所は、
「一定の年齢を超えて独身でいる事が批判の対象になる」
「家庭でしか得られない喜びを味わえない」
の2つを、キーアイディアに書いてみました。

反論としては、
「ライフスタイルや価値観が多様化している今、昔ほどそのようなことはないのでないか?」
「結婚をしなくても、パートナーと幸せな家庭を築き、家庭でしか得られない喜びを得ることは出来るのではないか?」
などが考えられますね。

これらは、国や地域によっても、かなり違ってきますね。
フランスは、事実婚が多いのは有名ですし、国の制度や宗教上、離婚が許されない事もあると思います。
結婚に対しての価値観も千差万別だと思います。
特に、国、宗教、性別、年齢、が違えば、なおさらですね。